- Take your time
As I lived my life, I am always thinking of what’s next, next move, next path, next everything. Once in my life, I forgot to live in the moment. I forgot to be right here. I forgot to live now. We tend to plan things ahead, yeah that’s good. But we forgot to appreciate the good things happening in our life right at this very moment. We forgot to acknowledge our feelings now because we cling on the past and look eagerly for the future. Be present. Be in the moment. Every second is important. Cherish it.
- People come and go
We meet a lot of people in our journey but a few will stay. Some of them you will meet in a bus and keep you talking but that will be the first and last time that you’ll meet him/her. Some people will be significant to you but will only serve as a lesson for you to learn for your growth. Some people come to destroy you, hate you or put you down yet they will still go. Some people are meant to stay because they decided to stay.
- What you don’t have now, you don’t need now.
I am a believer that God gives us all the things and people we need in our lives now. Need is so much different to want. We tend to look for things we don’t need just to satisfy our pride. I learned that I have everything in my life if I see that my happiness is just found in God’s peace.
- What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
The deeper that scar, the visible the mark. Mark your failures and learn from them. All problems and past lonely experiences I faced in my life made me who I am today. It made me wiser and know more about myself. Being strong is not an option but a necessity. There will come a time that you will feel that you’re at the rock bottom but no, you are not there yet. Life will always challenge you. It is your choice to win or to fail in it.
- A lot can happen in a year.
365 days is faster than you can think. Your life can change in it. The things you love can fade in it. The problems you have will probably doesn’t matter after 12 months. You can change your life in a single year but always change for the better, for what will make you happier.
- Be yourself. Be Unique. Love yourself.
Treat yourself as if you are the most special person in your world and you’ll realize how amazing you are. There came to a time that I hated the person that I become. I am swallowed by my insecurities and doubts. I tried hiding everything into a mask that people expects me to be, a person they want to see in me but in doing that I felt lost. I felt living a lie and someone’s life. But when I hung on a little tighter to my faith and start believing that I can go back to the person who I respected and loved, I was found. I felt free on my own skin and true to myself. I begin to love myself again. Love yourself; don’t expect anyone to do that for you.
- Love is always kind.
I always hear the song “Love Hurts.” I beg to disagree with that. Love is the only kind of feeling that is truly kind. You know what hurts? Fear does. Insecurity does. Often people misunderstand love as the one keeps hurting and giving them heart aches. But I believe that true love is the cure above all. Next time you start questioning if Love is truly kind, bear in mind Who love is, GOD.
- It’s okay to say no.
When I was younger, I learned to say “Yes” to a lot in order to experience things out of my comfort zone. But I got a little too far, I say yes to things that I don’t really like doing out of peer pressure. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to disappoint your friends once in a while. It’s okay to be different sometimes. Scratch that, No. All the time. Be different. Stay different.
- Never expect anything from anyone.
Never expect to earn respect and love from the people whom you give those things to. Let them feel it towards you because they decide to give it to you. Never expect anything in return. When I expected people to be there for me as I was to them, I nearly killed myself when I came to realized it doesn’t work that way. I ended up being crushed. Be kind and love people because you want to, not because you want them to do that for you in return. I remembered a quote saying if you give something without expecting anything in return is called kindness. Otherwise, it’s business.
- Money is hard to earn. Save it.
I am great spender of money. I am an impulsive buyer, still. I tend to realize the importance of money when I was the one earning it. I must admit that I spent my parent’s money mindlessly for my pleasure and not saved it for the future. Now, that I am older I realize to prioritize and save. Be wise and start your future by thinking ahead.
- Happiness is a choice.
Happiness is a state of mind, not a feeling. When you believe that everything is going to be okay in a stormy day in your life, that’s how you find peace and happiness. Our faith is our true joy. If you believe that you will go through it, you will.
- Travel is the best kind of investment.
Going to places enables you to experience and discover different things such as food, culture and people. In doing that, you will also discover a lot about yourself, your likes and dislikes, your fears and limits. It gives you a sense of refreshing everything after a lot of things happening in your life. When I travel, it always feel like going out of my routine world for a while and actually start enjoying life. Travel is life.
- Speak the truth but in the tongue of love.
I am a shit talker. I tend to say bad things. Honestly, I say things different from the way I think. People spend time saying things that can hurt others because they tend to see themselves in their ways. Hate invites hate. Love attracts love. Speak with tact. I learned that the words spoken can never be erased nor forgotten once it hurt someone. We should always say what we mean and mean what we say. Always examine if it is the truth, it is necessary and kind. Words are powerful, use it wisely.
- My parents only wants what is best for me.
When I was younger, I saw my parents as the killers of my joy. They prevent me to do the things I want and they just want to experience autonomy in my life. As I grew older, I failed in small tasks and encountered painful heart aches. One of the common denominators in those times was I have my parents to guide and support me. Yes, they are still bitching with me, lecturing me about their past and life lessons. I realized they had been here, they know the norms. We need to trust and love them as much as we could.
- Everything happens for a reason.
Sometimes things fall into places where we don’t want it to be. Some bad things happen because it just meant to happen. All the things that is happening in our daily lives has a purpose, we might not know it yet. Sometimes, life gets a little tough and we feel like it’s the end of the world, that we can never be as happy again. When I realized that everything will fall unto place at the right time and right place, I became happier. I am happier. When you realize that God won’t give challenges you can’t handle, I became free. When you know everything has its purpose, you become more hopeful and faithful.
- Trust your instincts.
When your mind tells you something is wrong, believe it. Trust your mind and protect yourself from harm. My greatest battles that I failed is because I didn’t trust my instinct. It’s as if my mind gives me a signal, a warning that I am in danger. Follow your gut. Allow the power in you flourish and make use of it. Your gut may not be always true, but it’s often are. Believe me.
- The only person you can change is yourself.
You can inspire others to change, but you can’t make them change. People change because they want to, not because you want them to. Everyone has their subconscious will. They will do what they want to do. Don’t try to change someone. I assure you, you will never succeed. Love them for who they are. Love them not because of what they are willing to change about themselves for your happiness but because they deserve your love and you want to become better because of them and vice versa. Everyone is looking for the one; but a few is striving to be the One.
- Gratitude can make you a lot happier.
People are never satisfied. Contentment is not usually in our vocabulary. We always want what is new, latest gadgets, new clothes and try a newly opened restaurant. That’s great. But we often forgot to be grateful for what we have, the things in our hands at the moment, the things that is present in our lives, the people that within our reach. We think we will be happier if we attain things out of our sight. But in doing so most of the time, the excitement will fade. The new will be old. The latest will be outdated. The chased stranger will become an annoying lover. Always, always love the present, the now, the here.
- Privacy is important.
Not everything in your life should be out in the world. Not everyone deserves a piece of you, Not everyone should know the things happening in your life. We reserve information about us that are special and valuable. We should create boundaries. Some people are just mere spectators not friends. Value yourself by defining lines between fakes and real jewels. Keep things private. Live life in peace.
- Never give the key to your happiness in a person, a thing or a job. Keep it in your heart.
Happiness should come from within. Live to stand alone for your own. You deserve all the happiness that the world could possibly offer.
- You cannot please everyone.
You cannot make everyone like you. You may ask why. It is because we are all different, different values, cultures and belief. Once you practice and understand empathy, you will learn to live life out of the thoughts of people around you.
- The sea makes me happy.
It is the part of nature that I love the most. It brings me the kind of solitude and calmness. Seeing the infinite line between that highest and lowest of the Earth will always make my heart warm.
- I am princess because I am the daughter of the KING and I deserve the best.
God is everything. You need not to have everything just to know you are a royalty. We just have to realize that we are God’s children for us to realize everyone deserves love and respect.